Once upon a time, people believed in the connection, the chemistry, the attraction and the friendship, that was born out of fascination, unity and loyalty.
Now?
It's filled with cynicism, lack of respect, moralistic sub-purposes and holier than thou attitudes, that for this old timer (been around since 2008, and blogging the same length of time) is tired of witnessing, reading and at times such as this, responding over and over, until i hear the echoes of past 'calm the heck down' posts, rolling around in my head.
People have somehow lost their way. Too consumed in beating each other verbally with a dead horse, they have forgotten the very reason they joined this fandom in the first place?
Too many have been seduced by the media's outlandish and at the very most, comical interpretations of Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart's relationship, that anything outside the 'box' is subjected to fandom scrutiny, verbal abuse and accusations of lying. Many i might add by those, who once upon a time believed in 'insider information' lived by it, in fact. Fandom CSI, was seen as a god send when they were able to 'dig up' clues, revealing side by side photos with red circles. Indicating with little 'hints' that Rob and Kristen, not only where together and let's face it, sharing body fluids of one description or another, but they also shared clothing, backpacks, friends, holidays, family...
You name it, the Fandom CSI shared it. Now, when a photo appears and red circles come out to play, it is laughed at. Ridiculed as 'desperation' by those who are looking at the possibility of a relationship still existing and therefore, mocked and called 'delusional'.
Once upon a time, this fandom knew of a dissatisfied fraction, who by their own choice, called themselves 'Nonstens' (non-believers of the existence of a relationship between Rob and Kristen.) They were a pretty bitter group of women, mostly die hard 'Rob fans' so the very idea he was with Kristen in a 'romantic' sense was preposterous, delusional, desperate and despicable.
They constantly tried to disprove the relationship, each time a photo appeared or a sighting happened "they are just friends, there is no romance between them, he (Rob) was seen leaving with 'blonde, tall, always a model"
(sound familiar?)
You see for me, considering i was blogging and promoting this wonderful and unique connection, between two people in this emotionless industry, what i have observed now in this fandom, amounts to the same thing.
Those who are constantly badgering others by suggesting, that to believe people who are going around with let's face it, their own version of the Fandom CSI (which by the way disappeared in 2012) are haters. A disgrace to the fandom of Rob and Kristen. Who are tricking fans, fooling fans, being made fools of...etc, etc - you get my drift?
The 'Nonstens' have disappeared and in it's place, they (those who hate the idea of a relationship) because of an incident in 2012, have 'infiltrated' for want of a better word, this fandom - causing doubt and insecurity. This fandom lost a lot of followers, who decided they could no longer follow this couple (through their own reasons) but i feel they instead or at the very least 'some' have come back under different guises. And have now joined the ranks of the haters, the naysayers, the once upon a time Nonstens, in a fight of words, strongly wrapped up in threats or accusations...and for what?
To prove a point, to proclaim 'i said so' without any proof whatsoever. Other than 'old timers' suggesting they 'know' better.
Poppycock! (love that word)
There is so much ill feeling, so much anger directed at each other. And if that's not bad enough, the call of 'open your eyes, open your minds' to what exactly, to your way of thinking?
Every one of us, is entitled to our own opinion, our own feelings and our own thought process. So i don't see why i or any other fandom member who has been around since the beginning, should be trying to persuade people to think or believe otherwise.
My only gripe in the 6 years i have been around, has been in the disrespect aimed at Rob and Kristen through the lying media (yes they do, they have lied and they will continue to lie, as long as stupid people click their links, support their sites and line (their) pockets with their stupidity)
But now it's turned into High School 'Sorority Wars' join my clique or else!
It's nothing but cyber-bullying, it's as simple as that. You can call it what you want, but to bully or badger or ridicule someone else - a person you don't physically know or have no intention of ever knowing. But feel, because distance and internet usage allows you a certain amount of ambiguity, you feel you can say what you want and it holds no remorse.
This fandom is a breeding ground of 'liars vs liars' claiming one group are lying and tricking the fans, when they (the other group) have no proof to back up their accusation.
I have said this repeatedly, but it is obviously falling or deaf or ignorant ears,
'bring it to the table and prove it!'
People want proof every single time there is a sighting or a rumour or a suggestion about Rob and Kristen, with 'prove it or shut up, pictures or it didn't happen'
Well if that is the case, prove these so called 'scum of the fandom' are lying. Prove they are tricking 'simple minded' fans, with their 'claims of cousins, or relations or rubbing crystal balls.'
Prove that what 'they' are saying are lies, with evidence to back it up!
Not just hearsay, rumour, suggestion or 'nod and a wink' i know, because i do and you just have to believe me.
I'm sorry but for me, i live by the code of evidence. I support everyone's right to an opinion, but if the opinion is just an opinion and has no proof - then it's just an opinion. And claiming people are lying based on your opinion is just a waste of time. You are no better than they are and therefore, have no right to judge others.
I have no argument with anyone in this fandom, i don't take sides, i have never followed any cliques and anyone who knows of me, know that i speak my mind.
But this dissension in the ranks of a fandom, that was once a very happy, social place to be. Where like minded people chatted amiably amongst themselves, but now...it's a depressing inner circle of bitterness and disrespect. I have heard many people say and i have said it myself, that this fandom is not what it used to be, but that doesn't mean it has to stay that way.
I have never felt stale. Blogging as long as i have, there has never been a time, where i felt the need to change the course of my beliefs. To stop believing in what i can see perfectly with my own eyes, or what i can feel with my own heart.
The media has never changed my mind, mainly because i have never allowed it. I suppose having family who work in the industry, has afforded me a cynical view of the media and how it has misrepresented the truth in the past, present and the future. It doesn't need to tell the truth, not when it's selling gossip and answers to no one unless, they over-step the boundaries between speculative gossip and exclusivity of the truth.
Same with believing the other information circling the inner realms of fandom scrutiny. If you don't believe it, why do you insist that it's nothing but lies? Why not just ignore it, like the constant rumours and suggestions the tabloid magazines have invented all these years? Oh that's right - you can't. You claim you ignore, but you just can't help yourselves. You claim the media tells lies to sell lies, and yet...the constant bevy of women, who seem to follow Rob around like he's some kind of Pied Piper of panty dropping, ovary exploding lothario, is the...truth?
Now that is some twisted irony, right there!
There are some Great Pretenders in this battled scared fandom. Some really convincing 'fandom experts' who use the very fact they have been around a while, to try and change people's minds.
If you believe - that is your choice.
If you don't believe - that is also your choice.
Anyone who tries to persuade you otherwise, are not doing it out of duty, out of respect or out of fandom loyalty to Rob and Kristen.
They are doing it out of fear, fear of the unknown.
Do i know if the 'suggestions' that have split this fandom apart are lies or not?
No, i don't. But that doesn't mean i have the right to go around accusing others of lying, because i have no evidence to disprove what they are saying.
And it doesn't give others the right to do it either.
If you don't believe, ignore and pass it by.
Getting offended over it proves nothing, other than giving you a bellyache of resentment and that is simply not worth it. Hence i don't let it bother me. True i know many people in this fandom from both sides, but as i have already said in the post, i don't take sides, i don't follow cliques and i don't see why i should stop being friends with those, who do. I march to the beat of my own drum and i am old enough not to fall into silly, little fandom cliques or groups.
I met some wonderful people, some truly loyal and exceptionally giving people. I have seen quite a few of them come...and go.
But my faith, my belief, my respect and my admiration for these two, has never wavered, never faltered. Even when evidence to the contrary (led on by the media) tried to persuade me otherwise.
I am neither a Robert Pattinson or a Kristen Stewart fan, i am a fan of both. MY loyalty lies with both and that also goes with my friendships.
T x
