0 Rob and Kristen - Just The Way You Are...

'Sing for the Lion and the Lamb...'

As we go all hearts and flowers for Feb 14th, and some lucky people clutch their copies of 'Breaking Dawn - part 1' close to their chests, sighing contently as they reminisce over the lovey-dovey scenes between Rob and Kristen playing Edward and Bella.

I thought i would post my 'Valentine's' musings early, because i will have my own 'quiet' celebration to get ready for ;-)

I thought i would make a lovely edition for all you Rob and Kristen fans. 
Those deliriously happy about a couple who so far, have stood the test of time. Ignored the hate that 'sometimes' is thrown at them and just simply bask in each other's mutual love and respect for one and other.
The hype surrounding their relationship i fear will never go away. While teenagers and angry Mom's, flood any 'form' of a social network with hate and disgust on both sides - Rob and Kristen will continue to dominate the thoughts of those who won't accept they are happy and not out partying, sleeping around on each other or getting high on whatever vice of their choosing.

With the tragic death of singer Whitney Houston; i believe it's time that more is invested in the idea that substance abuse of any kind, does not make a happy life. Success is often associated with tragedy and show-business unfortunately 'the glamorisation of it all' is often seen by the young and easily influenced, as the gateway to a happy life. Deep down, if you build your success on the happiness of others, you are not enjoying it and the need to have that constant 'elation and adulation' to make you feel wanted, is a dark and dangerous path to travel down.

Despite the nature of the beast they work in; Hollywood and it's tempting offer of fame and fortune, the whole "Welcome to Hollywood! Everybody that comes to Hollywood's got a dream! What's your dream?" - Happy Man in Pretty Woman.

Both Rob and Kristen refuse to live the famous life. And it's this 'ideology' that seems to confuse so many. I have often spoken about how much they remind me of Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman. A much loved celebrity couple who shunned the limelight of Tinseltown (all that glitters is certainly not gold) for a quiet life as much as possible. Paul and Joanne did not follow the norm of 'celebrity' and chose instead to live a relatively mundane life together. Surrounding themselves with family and close friends, who kept their private life - just so. 
Hmm, remind you of anyone?

Looking very cosy there Kristen?

To say Rob and Kristen cause such a stir in the celebrity fandom, is an understatement. You either love them together (deny they are a couple) or you don't. For there seems to be a deep divide of young fans; who adore them as Edward and Bella and see that spilling over into real life. And a much older generation, who clearly do not see the subtle love between them, refuse point blank to acknowledge that a romance even exists. Personally, I see a love that has blossomed and continues to grow from a friendship, that was forged right from the word go. When you fall in love or attraction is acknowledged - it's pretty hard to ignore it. Damn near impossible to control until eventually, the powers that be make you give into it and accept it's inevitable outcome.

Together...as one...

What has been very clear to me from the beginning and what has been observed by many people, is the 'protective' closeness they have for each other. Rob finding his feet in Twilight, was mainly down to the continuous support he received from the young actress playing opposite him. It was Kristen's gut determination and pleading with the director, that landed Rob the role. That and of course Rob sending Catherine Hardwicke and email then pestering her by phone call to get the part. His obsessive fans of course, would refuse that explanation; they believe he would have still got the role, despite Kristen's persistence and Catherine relenting that did the trick. But to the parties involved and their own admission - 'The truth is out there, you just have to know where to look' - Scully, The X-Files.

Challenges aside it's been the ongoing flirtatious banter, the quiet closeness and the admiration, bordering on lustful crushes, that eventually stole Kristen's heart. How can you not fall for a person who made it abundantly clear through actions and words, that he 'wanted' to get to know you better? Even so much as citing you are definite 'marriage material' who would do a thing like that?
Oh yeah..Robert Pattinson would.

Did love happen in Paris?

Fans sat back and watched the two of them; saw the gleam in his eyes and the lovely blush on her face. Held their fingers crossed behind their backs and hoped that by some 'powerful intervention' they would fall in love. Isn't it nice to know that all those prayers paid off? Isn't it lovely to see a young couple refusing to allow the outside world to interfere with their personal life? Not to fall for the age old trap in Hollywood - 'PR is the name of the game.' 

Of course there are those who believe delusionally, that Rob and Kristen live such a stupid existence. Either plain ignorance or blind judgement, allows certain people to taint this fandom with their silly hypothesis - laying claim that the actors are nothing but 'Studio Robots' and have no personality of their own. But here are some clues as to why Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart are to date - a successful couple in Hollywood.

They never work far apart; This we have all seen since 2009; when unfortunately their schedules made it that way. Rob was in NYC doing 'Remember Me' and Kristen stayed in LA to shoot 'The Runaways' It was later claimed that they didn't spend the entire two months apart. Instead Rob was seen on one occasion, flying the red-eye back from LA to NYC via a certain well known airline company, who just so happened to snap a photograph of him on their flight. After that, it became very apparent that the young couple would not spend more than was necessary away from each other. Choosing to use up those frequent flyer miles whenever the other one is away working, for a set visit and a stay for a day or two. Putting your work over your personal life has tragic consequences, but neither seem that interested in doing just that. As much as some would assume the call of Hollywood and making truck loads of money, is too much of a temptation to ignore - Rob and Kristen do just that. 

They don't need the attention; celebrities it's believed, need attention. They can't go a day without having their faces or names plastered all over glossy magazines or entertainment shows. Unfortunately for some...Rob and Kristen don't bother with that kind of lifestyle. It is seen as a 'giving right' to have a table reserved months in advance at the most popular restaurants and hot spots in LA - the red carpet treatment is practically gospel in some places. For this 'un-Hollywood' couple - fine dining means eating in places that do not allow the paps to take photographs at. Small local bars and bistros are most definitely 'their thing' and if they are not doing that, there is of course Kristen's 'home cooked meals' that always tempt Rob to just stay in and enjoy a quiet evening for two.

This girl is mine...

They only have eyes for each other; one thing cannot be mistaken and that is how Rob looks at Kristen - like he's the luckiest man in the world and to be perfectly honest, he is. Kristen is seen as the worst thing that could happen to a 'fandom' of gaggling, hormonal women. Hot onto the scene; Rob was perceived as a 'handsome, mischievous' twenty-something stud. All British stiff upper lip and old school manners, that everyone fell in love with. Everyone, including his young co-star? Ah yes and that's why today there is so much hate directed at one woman (yes Rob has even recently announced Kristen is a 'woman now') she ensnared him with her cool 'don't flatter yourself charms' and her quirky sense of having a built in 'BS' detector, proved that she was no 'ordinary' girl and it was essentially this, that kept Rob chasing after her (yes chasing) even when she was apparently in another relationship. Despite all this (and it's a long and twisty story I'm sure) they are together and happy. 

As for the worrying part? It might appear that Robert Pattinson is off the market - indefinitely.

Simmering under the surface...

I have been writing this blog for nearly 3 years now. I started putting down my thoughts half way through 2009; after much deliberation and backlash from a lot of haters, who disagreed with my thoughts about this girl and this guy. Mainly because i could see irrefutable evidence as far back as 2008; (Comic Con springs to mind) but it was mainly the confessions that spilled out of Rob's mouth, that seemed to do the trick. His delightful non-verbal filter, played havoc possibly with many a Summit executive as they tried to enforce a gagging order on him. If it hadn't been for the fact he made it 'well known' that he had a crush on Kristen and that crush had come from watching a movie she starred in, prior to getting a call about auditioning for a movie called 'Twilight' a lot of what we see today might never have happened. He is bluntly honest and this is one thing Kristen admits can get him into so much trouble. But it's his honestly that won the girl in the end and you can't deny that a man who speaks the truth - is a keeper.

My man...

That being said, Kristen is fully aware of her haters - she would be very naive if she didn't. She knows there are those out there who hate her for being with the most 'pinned after' man in Hollywood and understands that need to 'lust' over him. She is after all, a young woman and can empathise with what his 'fan girls' go through. But that won't stop her being happy and her happiness is all about loving the man who she is with. Supporting him in everything he does and being the one he comes home to at night.

Rumours, what rumours? Everyone loves to hear gossip, some even live their lives by it. Show-business is all about the rumour mill; the penchant need to know what is going on in some famous celebrities life. Of course, gossip stems from one person's point of view and it's then subjected to speculation, through various forms of media. Often made up, blown out of proportion and by the time it gets to the common folk who pick up a magazine or flick a programme on to watch - it's either completely false, or hideously exaggerated to the point of ridiculousness. Rob and Kristen have had their fair share of gossip fodder to contend with. Everything from partying and womanising with anything that has a pulse. Many, many pregnancy rumours, which just don't seem to want to go away. Break ups, make ups, calling all exes and the odd substance abuse thrown in for good measure. 

Rumour has it, they're together...

You would think they need a 'PR' company on 24 hour stand by to dispel all those rumours...
You would think wrong. As i said, they don't live the Hollywood idea of always needing a good PR spokesperson to defuse the claims that 'someone is up to no good' there is no need really when you don't do anything to create them. You see the reason behind a good rumour is simply the 'suggestive evidence' that there is something to hide. As soon as Kristen has to go some place and leave Rob behind or Rob has to do the same...silly little people who seemingly sit on their brains - fire up the rumour mill and try and sell gossip. Instead of confirming or denying - Rob and Kristen chose to ignore it. 
Shit can't stick to anything when there is no proof now, can it?

They live an ego-less existence; neither feel the need to upstage each other. In fact Rob is all for promoting Kristen's body of work, because without her constant support he believes he wouldn't be where he is today. Humble you might think, but for a young struggling actor who gets the chance in a lifetime to work on a movie alongside an actress, whom he admired and dare i say had a soft spot for - romantic wise...Rob has no ego about how he views his career. 

A pinch of self-deprecating you might think and a fault, Kristen always disagrees with him on. The proof is in the ability and strength he has been able to show in the last 2 years. With strength comes wisdom and having someone who supports you and pushes you forward to make you see you are the person they believe you are - can make anyone achieve anything. Behind every great man there is an even greater woman; this i feel is very much the case why their relationship seems to go from strength to strength - the lack of an ego. Too many relationships both famous and non, end up falling apart because of this. When an ego gets in the way, disaster always follows.

A little PDA for the first time...

Private means...private; One thing that is admired by many, including some media types who love to know the gossip - is Rob and Kristen's need to keep their private lives a strictly 'no go' area. They won't fall for the whole 'how did you meet?' or 'when did you begin dating?' questions, that have haunted them since it became increasingly apparent (to those still not sitting in the dark) that there was more to their relationship than mere co-stars and 'just' friends. Not that they haven't dropped a few clangers here and there. As i said before, Rob's verbal filter sometimes is turned to the 'off' position and little things tend to slip out. Last year however, it was Kristen's turn to let slip a vital piece of information - her boyfriend is English. Now to an unconcerned mind, this wouldn't mean too much. Pretty damn obvious if you ask me, but then again i am not one of those people who have to make up or invent stories about Rob dating this blond swimwear model or other. Nor do i feel the need to then hunt down any person associated with Kristen, who just so happens to have an English accent and that includes some of Rob's very close friends, to spread rumours.

Tucked in close by his side...

One thing is abundantly clear and that is they will never sell or cheapen their relationship by talking about it. This for some people bizarrely means; because they won't talk about it, it doesn't exist. They are a PR couple who have agreed to be together so the 'Twilight' movies can be successful and once the franchise is over (the end of 2012) they will go their separate ways. Successful, richer and thankfully released from their 'Summit paid' contract.

The truth is less dramatic and fan fiction worthy. For anyone to sells their lives this way, i do feel sorry for them. Unfortunately, it's not unheard of in show-business, which is why those that spread this kind of nonsense can live with themselves. 

BUT one thing is certain about this couple and that's the determined need to not sell it. I have pointed out that they don't go out of their way to get attention, don't frequent places that will have them on the front cover of a glossy magazine. They don't spend too much time apart and that also means time for cheating rumours to build up. They don't let egos get in the way of their relationship and they don't feel the need to sell it or talk about it.
So...what does all this mean?

Hey there beautiful...

It means that despite the constant state of 'gossip' surrounding them - they remain who they are.
It means that despite the clinging need to 'prove' they are not a couple - they continue to do so.
It means that despite the demand they 'speak' about each other - they refuse to talk about their relationship.

It means...when you have someone special in your life; you want to protect them and protect what you have. You would never intentionally hurt them and you refuse to see them get hurt. You will always try and be honest, supportive, caring and trustworthy. Kristen and Rob to me, hold the key to a very lasting life together. They don't let anyone else in and they refuse to let anything out. I don't need reports or photographs to prove they are together - they just are.

Have a lovely Valentine's Day to all the lovers in the world out there.
T.

*Life imitating art - by the wonderful Honeybuzy*

(This post was brought to you today based loosely on the BUZZNET article; of why Kristen and Rob are the best couple in Hollywood)